“Jaa Simran Jaa Jeelay Apni Zindegi.”
This famous dialogue from all-time favorite iconic movie, Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge.
A movie that got many of us to believe how beautiful love can be.
Today is a time when people feel it doesn’t exist anymore because love doesn’t look pure, selfless, and unconditional anymore.
But well it is not a bunch of wrong people that can take away the essence of this beautiful feeling.
Love does exist it is not in the other person it is within you, if somebody else can make you feel loved then you are the weakest person, because somebody else will make you feel special till they feel special about you, don’t give that power to others.
The heart-touching scene of Karwa Chauth from the same movie made all of us girls believe this is what a woman is accepted for, and all women started fantasizing about being loved and cared for by a partner unconditionally, it also became a reason why women would want to marry thinking this is how women can be complete, without which you are not good enough or your life has no meaning and purpose.
Well many women are blessed with this pure essence and we love seeing them joyful, they are still the reason of Hope for many.
At the same time, there are many women who are not heartbroken but are sad today who have willingly parted ways in their marriage.
Who may be missing being in a marriage and has many sweet memories but also has the feeling of knowing what it all meant for them.
While there are others who are heartbroken today because the same person who made you feel special by getting you a red chunri with sargi, you suddenly mean nothing to him, well my lady it was not your happiness that mattered to him it was his happiness to be getting the fruits of the relationship while he was doing that.
Now there are these crazy unmarried girls waiting for Mr Right thinking they will be happy only when they celebrate this day dressing like a bride year after year, with seeing their loving husband through the charni and breaking the fast.
And till this doesn’t happen they choose to be miserable because well they need to be endorsed by somebody that they are complete.
And in all of this, you are seeking happiness outside you, so even if you get the most loving husband you will feel incomplete.
While I advocate Women’s empowerment it is not about only knowing your rights and being empowered to stand for yourself but also about knowing you are valuable own respect for yourself and your emotions, you are complete you are sufficient regardless of being in a happy marriage, separated or single or by loss of husband, in every stage of life you are complete if you know your worth.
Celebrate yourself today, as an Author have covered this in my debut book, page no. 23.
Sisterhood is not only in celebrating this festival and ritual with similar married women but sisterhood also means uplifting and holding hands by celebrating with many more women who feel left out today, if the reason is “happiness” we are nobody to decide who deserves it, rightfully it is for all.
Happy Karwa Chauth, may the moon rise bring extra joy and glitter to your happy marriage, marriage with yourself and with your husband.
“Belong to yourself”.
Jaa Simran Jaa Jeeley “APNI” Zindagi.